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  Me, cooking: "La, la... wait, why have I got 'La Bamba' stuck in my head?" Girlfriend: "Because twenty minutes ago I was telling you about Tsar Bomba, the most powerful thermonuclear device ever tested." Me: "... shit. You're right and all." GF: "I know. I know my Tattie"

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  As I was laying in bed with my head on my girlfriend's chest, both of us relaxed and sleepy, she said these words to me: "You make me so happy." And I felt a rush of emotion. Something felt important, right then. I held the feeling aloft, peered into it. 1/

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  "Are trans women women?" is ideologically equivalent to "are adoptive mothers mothers?"

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  Ok but why do we have forks in our vulvas??

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  Call for #SexToy advice: what options are available for cunt owners who have a sensory aversion to vibration?

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  Progressterone pride flag is this anything?

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  I identify as a #plural system— to oversimplify, I feel that there is not so much a single cohesive "me" as a, well, plurality of them. With careful introspection I can notice myself switching between which version of me is "fronting", or observe myself to be operating in a more "blended" mode. 1/

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  As a trans person, I'm bitterly familiar with the phenomenon where any misdeed committed by any other person who happens to be trans— no matter how far removed they are from me by any other measure— will be used to cast aspersions on my own morality and trustworthiness, because we "share an ideology". This is a post about Berlin.

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  I'm low-key furious. A friend just took the immensely brave step of telling her GP she thinks she is trans and wants to go on hormones, and he (a cis, gay man) tried to "supportively" convince her that she wasn't really trans, because he "has trans friends" and knows that if she was really a woman "she would know". Fuck. That. Shithead. 1/

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  Poll for people with a natal clitoris: when you get a clitoral erection ("ladyboner"), how physically noticeable is the sensation?

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  I was watching a video of trans experiences, which included this lovely older trans woman. And everything she said was very resonant, except for one thing: she said that in her experience the sex that trans women have after vaginoplasty is typically disappointing, brings little pleasure, and they often give up on it after a while. This, to be frank, is not the experience I'm familiar with, within my own social group. And I wondered at first if this implied that vaginoplasty techniques had i...

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  Happy International Non-binary People's Day! 🍌🕊️🍇🐈‍⬛ :heart_nonbinary:

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  Christ it's depressing the responses black people get to their posts on here. 😩

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  I think I've finally put my finger on another "Geek Social Fallacy". But first, if you're not familiar with the original, go and check it out https://plausiblydeniable.com/five-geek-social-fallacies/ (I know "geek" is a very dated descriptor, but the same observations continue to hold for a lot of communities, especially queer and/or neurodiverse ones). 1/

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  Showing my girlfriend my favourite anime from way back, Disaster Queers Fuck About With Swords.

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  I regard with growing alarm the idea of "trauma dumping" as a supposed negative— that talking frankly about your troubles is variously unusual, rude, harmful, or even something to be punished. It seems to be verging even on an idea that trauma is somehow something which is infectious, spread by talking about. 1/

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  @anon_opin@mastodon.social "if you couldn't be bothered to spend time making it, why would you expect me to spend time appreciating it?"

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  @Azzura@lgbtqia.space yep, even before transition I used this as a survival tactic. The fawning, the pleasing, until I can extract myself from the situation.

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  From weeds to crops #gardening

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  @lisa@beige.party happy three years Lisa! :blobhaj_trans_heart: :blobhaj_trans_heart: :blobhaj_trans_heart:

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  If your favourite sport was named via the same naming scheme as ping pong, what would it be called?

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  Richard Dawkins falling in love with an imaginary being in the form of his AI chatbot is genuinely funny, pitiable, and ironic. It's also a good moment to look at what genuine critical thinking looks like, and how many self-professed skeptics like Dawkins actually get worse at it, not better. 1/

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  Today's the day! One hill. Ten thousand people. A lot of fire. A lot of drums. A lot of body paint. Tattie in front of a big Acropolis thingy leading an interpretative-dance-slash-​ritual-for-the-ending-of-patriarchy. Wish me luck! #BeltaneFireFestival #BeltaneFireSociety #Beltane

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  I have just had it pointed out to me that after #BeltaneFireFestival I was walking half-naked thru Edinburgh at 2am, only body paint to preserve my modesty. It completely slipped my mind at the time (I did have a cape but I was not bothering to cover myself with it.) Talk about altered states of mind.

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  Eleanor Roosevelt's famous saying, "no-one can make you feel inferior without your consent", may be a nice desiderata to live by, but psychologically speaking... it's untrue. Truth is we're social creatures and extremely vulnerable to the judgements of others, even when we don't want to be. Especially when those others are in a place of power over us. Very much especially when they are our parents, our caregivers. We internalise external criticism as a nagging voice...

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  Ori urges you all to be fabulous today. #CatsOfMastodon

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  I was down visiting my brother, when he needed to know the answer to a question. He pulled out his phone, said to me "sorry, I know you don't like AI, but this is just too convenient", and dictated his question to Gemini. And I'm just looking at him, like, bro. You have reinvented voice activated Google Search, but with the possibility of hallucinated nonsense, and even more privacy violations by global megacorporations. And if it's the cheery, fake-polite interface you l...

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  It's my fifth rebirthday! I'm wearing Labradorite, symbolising transformation and magic.

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  Dear cis guy on the bus who told me "we all love you" and "we're all here for you" after I was subjected to transmisogynist verbal abuse from a drunk guy: the sentiment is appreciated, I guess... but... like... You coulda "been there for me" while the abuse was happening rather than sitting there studiously avoiding eye contact with anyone. Just a thought.

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  Happy #TransDayOfVisiblity 2026! Time for the annual tradition of updating my #TransitionTimeline. Enjoy! #TDoV #TransSelfie #TransJoy