I've shared that at one time I had lost everything, and had literally nothing but the clothes on my back. And impossible debt. I eventually got a job and an apartment, but couldn't afford furniture, dishes, often food. Anyone meeting me got none of the material camouflage we often hide behind, which can be revealing for both sides. That was the point in my journey I met her. Over 30 years ago. She still catches me staring at her occasionally and asks what I'm thinking about. All of it.