Post #1161862 · Elektrine

2026-04-13 13:20 UTC

If two parties agreed to it under no sense of duress then anyone who betrayed the mutual trust required is making a selfish choice. If your feelings toward the agreement change you need to have a discussion with the other person. You can say they're antiquated for agreeing to it, you can even say that it's an unrealistic expectation but if it's consensually agreed to it's about trust in your partner's word

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@DudleyMason@lemmy.ml 2026-04-14 20:37

>If two parties agreed to it under no sense of duress As long as monogamy is considered the default and something most people wouldn't ever consider getting away from, it's impossible to enter a monogamous relationship absent coercion, because the coercion is societal. Just like there's no such thing as voluntary employment under a capitalist system, there's no such thing as voluntary monogamy in a world dominated by Western, Bronze-age sexual politics.

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@IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 2026-04-13 13:32

I would never agree to those terms, so they don't apply to me. the problem is that society, states, and religion pushes those standards as if they are the only correct form of relationships. they are arbitrary rules based on ancient forms of control, where women were seen as free household labor and baby factories.

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