2025-06-12 08:00 UTC
@morganth@social.tchncs.de I think there's some nuance to this (isn't there always? 😅)
I love to help with things I am good at and enjoy doing, but being asked to help with something I hate or suck at is a burden
If I volunteer to help, I feel good. If I'm asked, it sometimes feels like an implied criticism for not volunteering (e.g. offering your seat to someone on a bus vs being asked)
It's socially awkward to refuse a request for help. If you ask me and I have to refuse then I resent it
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@LillyHerself@mastodon.social 2025-06-12 09:19
@nicklockwood@mastodon.social I think there's a lot of truth in what you say. Encouraged by the many people who tell you "Don't be afraid to ask for help", I did so on a couple of occasions, only to discover that asking for help is actually considered to be an imposition, is resented, and is a damn good way to lose friends forever. @morganth@social.tchncs.de