:BoostOK: reia is curious : married/engaged queer couples of fedi , how did you do proposing ? did you just completely skip that , did you go with something other than a diamond ring , what did you do ? reia finds the concept of expensive diamond ring given to The Woman pretty stupid , theyre fragile , too expensive , only giving the non-proposing party the ring kinda has this patriarchal connotation of "youre The Woman in this relationship" which uhh . no thanks . it generally all feels so very tainted by patriarchy , heteronormativity , and capitalism .... so it is very curious to know other ways that you came up with , or heard about being done !! [ again, boosts much appreciated :3 ]