"As women, for example, we have been socialized to quickly connect with the need for contribution, while putting needs for self-care and self-expression at the bottom of our cultural ranking system. “Good women don’t have personal needs; they thrive on taking care of others,” has been, and at times still is, a stereotypical undercurrent of our personal and professional lives." --- 摘自 "The Heart of Nonviolent Communication 原來我過去那種「幫人抬轎」的心態，很可能一部分是來自於這種對女人的規訓：要犧牲自己，照亮他人。所以必須犧牲自己的需要，包括自我照顧跟自我表達。