@Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works
2026-04-13 13:29 UTC
Then don't enter into relationships where that's a rule, or negotiate alternatives 🤷♂️
I'm not going to say there aren't circumstances where cheating is *understandable*, but it's still a bad thing to do, even in the scenario you describe. Taking the abused and neglected cheating partner's perspective - what happens when your partner finds out? What happens when someone else finds out and uses this information to blackmail you? Are you really going to be better off than you would've been making and executing an escape plan instead?
Cheating almost always outs. Everyone thinks they're going to be the exception, but by definition few are. If you're unhappy in your relationship, either get all people in the relationship onboard to start addressing that, or leave. If leaving is going to create problems, prepare in advance to address those problems. IMO you'll be better off for it v. cheating.
Replies (1)
-
@IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 2026-04-13 13:35
you've never been in an abusive relationship and it shows. Ideally no one should ever be in one. I hope it's ok if I copy pase a reply I did to someone else, but I'm getting a lot of replies and there's no point in writing the same thing twice: I would never agree to those terms, so they don't apply to me. the problem is that society, states, and religion pushes those standards as if they are the only correct form of relationships. they are arbitrary rules based on ancient forms of control, where women were seen as free household labor and baby factories.