I think this is very much a game dependent thing. When I commanded open world events in Guild Wars 2 I didn’t have any trouble, but when I played Overwatch, I would get judgement and snide comments and extra scrutiny. Most of the time I didn’t have any trouble from teammates but that <10% was bad enough that I don’t blame any woman from staying quiet. I think each game attracts certain people and encourages certain behaviors, and those people will create their own subculture around the game. See Helldivers for example. Guild Wars 2 has done an admirable job creating an online space with less toxicity than most. Overwatch not so much. I think it’s extremely common for people to form gaming clans and carve out their own enclave away from the random population, so they can play even games with highly toxic hostile cultures in relative peace. I think if you found yourself in a larger gaming clan that explicitly made toxicity unacceptable, you would find yourself surrounded by women on voice with you.