Post #1188805 · Elektrine

2026-04-02 15:05 UTC

I had an ex who worked in this field, she went to mortuary school and worked in mortuaries, before that she worked in organ transplant. She went into the field because of a combination of personal tragedy (a close one passing away at an early age) and seeing how delicately the mortuary handled the event. Anyhow, she and I would talk about it often. One of the things she would note on, wasn’t that it was sexual based things men would do (besides general office sexism coming from men on occasion), but more about the level of respect they showed the deceased. Crude Comments they’d make about their weight, features etc… So I think it just depends and it would be difficult to verify these other claims because the “victims” are deceased and most things related to it seem to be anecdotal. I’m also not going to google necro in anyway (Also yes, she was kinda emo/metal an had some pretty sick tattoos)

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@ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 2026-04-03 13:52

> seeing how delicately the mortuary handled the event I sure wish I'd had this experience with the funeral home I picked out when my dad died. I called them to arrange to pick up his body, and the answering service was AI and obviously so. I gave them his name and the voice read it back to me to confirm it as "Robert common name R-O-B-E-R-T, Smith common name S-M-I-T-H". Then the owner ghosted me for more than a week and only delivered the urn with the ashes in the night before the internment at 8:00, left it outside and split before I could talk to him. 8 grand well spent.

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@WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2026-04-03 04:22

True. Humans only become valuable once they are dead. They only say you were a good person once you are dead, say you were too young, they go "if only we knew, they seemed fine" if you kill yourself, then go to imvestigate, once you are already dead. How many writers were ridiculed and rejected, before becoming famous AFTER their death? Once you are more like an object, once you have no more feelings, is when they start actually valuing you for what you were. Same as how people will value their cars, or precious things more than people. Same as how people romanticise native americans, years after they were almost exterminated completelly (while mostly treating those still alive like shit).

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