I have found that if I want my needs to be met, I have to ask for my needs to be met and i have to say exactly what I am looking for. The hardest part of my getting here was actually understanding what my needs are, knowing what will help get them met, and separating that from the feelings I have about my unmet needs. If I feel like I need a hug and no-one is around, I will give myself a very tight hug, grabbing both my shoulders with opposite hands and pulling them tightly forward. If I am looking for verbal affirmation, I will tell my husband what I specifically want to hear, he will repeat it back to me but this also helps him know what I am looking for exactly so he will also provide support around that. Sometimes, nothing can be done and the only thing I can so is wait out what ever feeling I am having, on days like that, I put on a comfort TV show (Futurama or TNG) and I go to bed early, even if its like 2:00PM.