I pay $3-4k more in taxes when I file with my wife. I get $2k per kid as a deduction. Married costs me. I get a little back for kids. But $2k is one month of daycare per child. So… No. No special treatment. I don’t get more sick days when my kids are sick. I don’t get less work because I have children. I don’t get easier projects because I’m a father. Whatever special treatment you think we parents are getting is delusional.