As someone who really resents the experience of procuring female clothing: Saving money in order to invest in and develop a relationship with a bespoke tailor who gets my preference for materials and styles has been a revelation. Most formal clothing available in the U.S. does not fit my body type at all. I tried a tailor in Malaysia where I visit often, and they’ll now be able to send me stuff based on my text messages. I am so, so relieved. I want to have a better relationship with clothing, but I do not want to engage in fast fashion or the experience of ‘shopping’. I know what I want and don’t want (too long shirts, too stiff collars, stuff that looks weird tucked in because it’s not made for my body type). I like being able to say I want a pocket here or there, or use some material that is good for specific weather. I don’t think I’ll ever go back to getting anything off the rack, ideally (I have a very difficult relationship with shopping and it literally makes me cry)