@SeaDonut@tech.lgbt Therapy seems to help a lot of folx get there. There's an autobiography by an English trans+ woman (Mia Violet) called "Yes, You Are Trans Enough". She had to do a lot of therapy to get there. Meanwhile, we just ignored and put off the question until we couldn't any more, and chatted briefly with somebody in The Orchard Discord server, which caused the shell around us to crack in a million pieces.