> drunk straight women love to SA queer women That is a very general statement. I really dislike like such blanket statements. Because what is the difference between that and statements like “black people are dumb”, “Mexicans are drug dealers”, or, yes, “straight men are rapists”? > if someone critiques an identity that you are a part of and the critique doesnt apply to you then its probably not about you If someone critiques a whole identity, they should either make sure that it applies to all or at least the overwhelming majority of that identity, or be prepared to be called a bigot and prejudiced. To be extremely clear, because I know this is the internet, nuance is dead, and everything has to be black and white and packed for a 10s attention span: You should critique people. You should point out toxic and hostile behaviour and oppressive social norms. You should, in my humble opinion, never fall into the trap of going from "gay people are bad" to "straight people are bad". The opposite of a restrictive society that enforces a one-size-fits-all norm (like heterosexuality, or being of $majorityEthnicity) is not an inverse stereotype, it is a free society where people are judged on their actions, not the properties they were born with.